Someone asked me recently if I had a “standard” as it relates to whether or not a person can be my friend. I’d never been asked such a question, but it was a great question. Associates are many, friendships are few (although I use the word too loosely). My response was, “Absolutely! The person just has to be safe. I can’t afford to give personal access and vulnerability to someone who is likely to maim or abuse me. The time I’d have to take to recover, heal and be restored from such close range friendly fire won’t just affect me, but everyone I’m called to affect.”
Mistakes happen and there is such a thing as a hair (hairpin) trigger. The thing is though, the gun should NEVER be pointed at me. Fight beside me, not from behind me.
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Have your God fight beside you, and those who don’t understand – move on…be blessed and not deceived.
Thank you…
I think that for some people, it all comes so easily to them – they just somehow pick the good ones or get cosmically lucky not having any bad experiences. I’ve seen – and felt – the pain of friendly fire. I used to not understand how somebody could just ‘drop’ a toxic person from their life, but having seen the problems one rotten apple causes – sometimes it’s necessary to remove it so that it doesn’t spoil the whole bushel.
You are so right about it! Sometimes you have to choose safety! I’ve found I can forgive AND choose emotional safety. It’s simply part of self love.